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I read this post from someone basically ranting about how insecure people need to stop wallowing in their self hate and just learn to love themselves. It prompted me to make a post about insecure people for those who don’t know what being insecure is truly like.

An insecure person or a person with depression do NOT want to live their lives hating themselves.We don’t put themselves down because they want keep finding new reasons to hate themselves, for us, those thoughts just comes natural. There are times where WE CANNOT CONTROL  how we think about ourselves. I could be be with my friends and be completely happy with them, when suddenly something triggers those thoughts and emotions again and then it’s back to square one.

And as hard as you may find to believe this, we don’t want to talk about our depression. Yes, there are people out there who bad talk self deface just for attention and to fish for compliments and everybody knows those kind of people can be annoying. The problem is however is that now people believe that those who truly have mental difficulty controlling sadness  can be lumped up with the attention seekers.

People feel that all they need to do is to stop thinking bad about themselves and problem solved. It’s no where near that simple. If we could just force ourselves to stop thinking badly about ourselves and see just our good qualities, don’t you think we would? Do you think we’re so stupid or weird that we just accept making ourselves miserable? I guarantee you, a truly insecure and depressed person  wishes they they can stop that mind set. It’s not just simple bouts of feeling a bit sad, in our minds, these horrible thoughts are what we think are truths that we don;t want to accept. We think our hate for ourselves is justified and we wish it wasn’t. NOBODY want’s to be sad, but we can’t stop it as hard as we try, and we do freaking try like you can’t imagine.

You may say you know it won’t be easy to accept yourself and love yourself, but I honestly think you still think it’s easier than it looks. Do you know what it’s like to be a cutter? to truly contemplate suicide? To truly feel hopeless? I have a strong feeling that you haven’t and you’re equating feeling very sad with true hatred for oneself. I want to be cured, I realize my self hate is not helping me, but it’s not a problem could be just shrugged off, it’s a true mental disorder that needs to be dealt with, smartly and in a supportive and casual pace. We feel like fools because we are partly unable to think otherwise, but you’re the real fool if you think you can make a broad judgement and think self hate is as simple and as you describe.

We just want to be happy, and we need to figure out the right way to do it.

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