It’s really hard being a positive person on tumblr
I keep reading all these self depreciating comments on my dash like “I thought I was photogenic, turns out I’m just ugly” and He chose her and not me” and etc. I try my best to make people happy, but when I keep seeing posts like that, it makes me feel like all my efforts don’t mean anything, and it ends up fuel my depression. Tumblr has created a community that teaches us to accept that we’re sad and the there’s little we can do about it so we might as well just sit down and dwell on it online. We should be trying to build each other up. We should be doing what we can to make sure others don’t feel the pain we felt. We should be doing what we can to make ourselves and others happy, not providing more fodder for us to continue our self pity.
Nothing’s going to change if you sit there and do nothing. It doesn’t matter how much you want to say that trying is hard. Doing something that is worth it is never easy. If you thing a average person’s life is not supposed to have any struggle, then you’re seriously looking at life the wrong way.
I don’t believe you can choose to be happy, but I do believe that if you’re unhappy, you can chose to do something about it.
I’M DOING IT!!!
I’m going to go the entire day without doing anything my OCD tells me to do. I’m doing any metal rituals, whenever I have any kind of negative thought I’m going to ignore it instead of going through a series of thoughts and phrases to make it go away, and most importantly, I’m not going to over think!
I’m stopping these problems cold-turkey. My OCD ends now!
Enough of this “The world is getting worse”/”People these days suck”/”I’m losing hope in humanity” crap!
I’m REALLY getting tired of people making statements like this. Every time they see news reports of people doing something evil, they react as if it’s either the worst thing anybody has ever done or as if it’s one of the first few times someone has ever done something evil. People today seem to believe that humans performing atrocities is a relatively new thing.
People said the Sandy Hook school shooting was proof that the world has gone to shit. Now I’m in no way shape or form trying to minimize how horrific and tragic that moment is, but why pick that moment to say that the world sucks now? Aren’t there other huge and awful moments that should get you believing that the world is awful if you’re gung ho on believing that? A school shooting that killed 2 dozen people is awful but a holocaust that killed millions is not millions is not worth remembering?
Once again, I’m not trying to imply that a school shooting or the death of anybody is not tragic or less important just because there are other tragedies out there with higher body counts, all tragedies are sad no matter what. I just want to know this one thing: Why do people act as if the horrors they see today are all matter?
Let’s put this on a more micro level. I’ve noticed a popular trend here on tumblr: getting mad at people who make mean jokes and comments on positive posts on facebook. This is most commonly seen when a picture of a bigger girl in sexy clothing becomes popular. You read the comments and you’ll eventually find people who will say something bad about the picture.
That sucks, but I think the real problem here are people who make a big deal about these mean commenters. These pics often get hundreds or thousands of likes and positive comments, so why focus on the negative ones as if they’re the ones that matter the most? Whether you like it or not, you will always find people who will not view things the same way you do and will not agree with a lot of the things you do. It doesn’t mean that they’re inferior to you nor are they bad people (unless they’re supporting some kind of prejudice, of course. However, saying you don’t think bigger girls are attractive or questioning the legitimacy body positive movement is NOT prejudice) it just means you have different views. No matter how people may agree with your view, it does not mean nor should not mean every single person has to. You have accept that. The important thing is that the pic is getting a lot of positive feedback, so why ignore that fact?
That logic applies to life in general. We only seem to put a spotlight on the bad things that happen in the world, to the point where we almost seem eager (not happy, that’s a different emotion) to do because we’re so used to enforcing our own belief that world full of nothing but evil. Yet whenever someone tries to perform truly kind acts, we either ignore it or, even worse, treat it as if it doesn’t matter. We think they don’t matter because a simple kind act won’ remove the evil in the world. That kind of thinking is bullshit! Being good person only matters if thousands or millions are affected by it? Doing good only matters if it solves all the world’s problems?
You’re embracing a nirvana fallacy. Until the world is “perfect” you’ll just continue hate it. Here’s the thing though, the world never was nor ever will be anywhere close to perfect . There has and always will be evil in this world, no matter what. The world hasn’t gotten worse. Evil has not risen, we’re just not more used to and capable of acknowledging it. The old saying is true, you can’t make everybody happy, why not just try to make as many people as you reasonably can happy and commemorate those who do try to make others happy? In the long run, it often is the best thing we can do. I’m not sure if happiness is a choice, but you can choose to do something that creates happiness.
Dangerous lessons people on tumblr try to teach each other:
“Nobody cares” and “You can’t trust anybody”. That destructive mentality forces you to believe that when it comes to relationships, the worst case scenario is the most plausible. You get scared that your best friends who you love with all your heart and know you can trust will turn their back on you. You get scared that you’re not good enough for anyone.
I’m sorry but if a lot of these blogs that claim to be support for those dealing with depression post stuff suggesting those terrible thoughts are valid, then I want no part.
Pointing out that men and people who aren’t white have problems too is not derailing, it’s not sexisim, and it’s racism.
It’s doesn’t matter what race, religion, gender you are. It’s doesn’t matter if you’re rich or poor. Everybody is capable of experiencing sadness and pain. It doesn’t matter how “good” your life is, it won’t prevent the twists and turns life throws at you. Nobody’s trying to trivialize anybody else’s troubles. We all just want everyone to realize that there’s no requirement for being sad. oppression,
For christ’s sakes! Help people in need!
When you see someone is sad, depressed, or expressing hating ideas, HELP THEM OVER COME IT! Don’t like it, don’t try to sympathize, don’t give them the idea that it’s ok to think like that just because you and a lot of other people feel the same way. HELP THEM TO FEEL BETTER!
So many times I see post like “I need to be skinny” or “I hate myself” or “I’m not good enough” on facebook and tumblr. What do people do when they se those posts? The click like on those posts. And if they comment on it, it’s usually to say “I feel the same way” or something to that affect. Stop it. If you know how horrible feelings like that are, why don’t you try to help others so they have those feelings instead of letting a fellow human being wallow in pain. It’s just sad,
Why do you care whether or not you’re someone’s first choice?
Or someone’s second choice or even third? That person still cares about you enough to want you in their life in someway. Think about, you’re their friend. You’re someone that person has absolutely no obligation to be with. They can choose whether or not they want your company. The fact that they want you, a person who is not related to them in any way, to have some involvement in ho their life goes is an amazing honor and privilege. Why does it matter if you’re not their top choice or #1 friend? You’re still their friend and they want you in their lives. Cherish that and always show them gratitude for it.
I think I’m too ugly to flirt.
I don’t want any girl here on tumblr to be under the impression that I’m ever trying to “hit” on them. I don’t think I’m good looking,I’m awkward, I never had a girlfriend and I never even been kissed on the lips. When I talk to you, it’s only because I want to be friends. I like getting to know new people. You are all too beautiful for a guy like me to ever have a chance with.
I’m nearly 20 years old and I never had a girlfriend. All I have to say is…
I’m completely cool with that! You don’t need a boyfriend/girlfriend to make you happy or feel loved. You also don’t to act like you need one in your life or that your that is incomplete without one. Find good friends. Don’t tell that there aren’t any. Just go put put there, remove that fear that you can’t be accepted, and you’ll find them. Maybe a lot of them, maybe a few of them, but you will find good people who will love you for who you are. Love those friends, accept their qualities and accept their flaws. Nobody is perfect, and appreciate a person for who they are, not what you want them to be.
I can’t stand her stupid weight watchers commercial playing every 10 minutes. I hate weight loss commercials to begin with, but her’s are especially annoying. It’s not simply the fact that she used to be a big girl and lost weight that bothers me. It’s the fact that she use to claim that she would not conform to the Hollywood standard of beauty claimed she believed that she was beautiful.
But eventually she thrown all of that out of the window and now she can’t get enough out of telling people how important weight loss is. She’s proudly telling the world that she has abandoned her old beliefs and is now a part of an industry that thrives on making people feel like they’re not good enough and profiting of their insecurity. The weight loss industry doesn’t truly care about people’s health. They just care about finding new ways to make us all feel like crap so that we would buy their products and feed their greed. I change the channel every time those weight loss commercials come on.
What annoys about a lot of celebrities who lose weight is how they flaunt the fact that they lost weight. Take the singer Jordin Sparks, for example. She too was on the bigger side and she would tell people that she was beautiful and believes that you don’t have to be skinny to be beautiful. What does she do then? Loses the weight and posts a picture of her new body in a bikini for the word to see. Perhaps I shouldn’t be blaming this entirely on the before-mentioned celebrities. Hollywood’s simple minded push to make the world believe that skinny is the only way to be beautiful and happy was probably a lot of pressure for these girls to bear.
Still, it’s a huge shame that they let themselves be influenced so heavily by society’s pressure to be as skinny as possible that they have abandoned the idea that people of every size can be beautiful and healthy. Jordin Sparks keeps flaunting her to make other’s see how much smaller her body is now and Jennifer Hudson keeps trying to lose as much weight as she can won’t shut up about it. Hollywood is in serious need of more people like Raven Symone. She’s skinnier now than she used to be, but she doesn’t brag about, doesn’t endorse any weight loss B.S., and most amazingly, she admits the only reason she lost the weight was because of Society’s pressure to be skinny. She may have lost her weight, but I believe she is still a strong supporter of loving your body and beauty coming in every size. Much respect to her.
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This is for ALL OF YOU!
You’re beautiful. You’ll always be beautiful no matter what your weight is. The way people treat others because of their size is ugly. You’re better than that. There’s nothing about you that you should be ashamed of, because you’re amazing and perfect the way you are. No matter how much some people want to enforce the idea that anyone is not skinny is ugly, I guarantee you there many, MANY people in this world who’ll disagree. Weight does not determine beauty. Just thought I’d tell you that. :D