When you see someone is sad, depressed, or expressing hating ideas, HELP THEM OVER COME IT! Don’t like it, don’t try to sympathize, don’t give them the idea that it’s ok to think like that just because you and a lot of other people feel the same way. HELP THEM TO FEEL BETTER!

So many times I see post like “I need to be skinny” or “I hate myself” or “I’m not good enough” on facebook and tumblr. What do people do when they se those posts? The click like on those posts. And if they comment on it, it’s usually to say “I feel the same way” or something to that affect. Stop it. If you know how horrible feelings like that are, why don’t you try to help others so they have those feelings instead of letting a fellow human being wallow in pain. It’s just sad,

You don’t have to look like anybody else for any reason. There no such thing and the “perfect body” or “perfect face” or whatever. There will be many people who will pick out flaws in you, no matter what you look like. Whether you see it or not, what makes you beautiful is not having a certain look, it’s realizing and embracing everything you are. The world needs uniqueness, so why take that away by trying to be someone else ? 

(I posted this already, but I felt it was worth reposting) I’m 20 years old and I never had a girlfriend… and I’m completely cool with that! You don’t need a boyfriend/girlfriend to make you happy or feel loved. You also don’t to act like you need one in your life or that your that is incomplete without one. Find good friends. Don’t tell that there aren’t any. Just go put put there, remove that fear that you can’t be accepted, and you’ll find them. Maybe a lot of them, maybe a few of them, but you will find good people who will love you for who you are. Love those friends, accept their qualities and accept their flaws. Nobody is perfect, and appreciate a person for who they are, not what you want them to be.

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I see that phrase posted on tumblr a lot and it really makes me think. As sad as it is to say this, I can’t say that I love myself. I have made much progress with combating my depression, but I still have episodes of extreme sadness here and there. However, I still try my best to show love and happiness to all of my friends. Whenever I am dealing with those episodes of sadness, they are always there for me and do their best to keep me strong. They’ve told me that they love me and they know that I don’t really love myself.

So please, explain to me why is it that I person who doesn’t love themselves? I just don’t believe that, no do I want to believe that. The love and support I have from my friends are the most important think I have in my life right now.

No matter how skinny you become, mo matter how much makeup you wear, no matter what clothes you put on your body, there will always be people will try to make you feel like you’re not good enough. Those are people who live a world  where people feel it’s ok to make others think there ugly, who want everyone to be the same, and don’t care about the repercussions of their actions. They live in a world where hatred is ok. That’s not a world anybody should want to live in. Despite what these people want everyone to believe, EVERYBODY IS BEAUTIFUL. Weight doesn’t matter.

Being big or small doesn’t determine or beautiful a person is and it doesn’t determine a person’s worth. The only real disgusting people are those who want to make others feel bad about themselves and think they’re being “good and helpful people.” These people don’t want you to know that there is a better world out there, a world where people aren’t small minded jerks. A world where people appreciate the quality of a person’s character, and in that, makes that person beautiful, inside AND out.  It may not seem this kind world doesn’t exist, but I promise you that if you go out and truly look, and let yourself experience the world out there, you’ll find them a lot sooner than you think.

As a person with depression, I know my words aren’t going to “cure” any one who reads this. Dealing with self hate is much more complex than that. And I know it’s hard to trust want I’m because the media makes it seem like being skinny will give nothing but happiness and will make your life easier, but I promise you, the world is not that bad. Just hold out a little longer and look, I promise you’ll find people make sure you know that you’re beautiful and and amazing the way you are now. Whether those people are on the internet or real life, you’ll find those people if you try.

I read this post from someone basically ranting about how insecure people need to stop wallowing in their self hate and just learn to love themselves. It prompted me to make a post about insecure people for those who don’t know what being insecure is truly like.

An insecure person or a person with depression do NOT want to live their lives hating themselves.We don’t put themselves down because they want keep finding new reasons to hate themselves, for us, those thoughts just comes natural. There are times where WE CANNOT CONTROL  how we think about ourselves. I could be be with my friends and be completely happy with them, when suddenly something triggers those thoughts and emotions again and then it’s back to square one.

And as hard as you may find to believe this, we don’t want to talk about our depression. Yes, there are people out there who bad talk self deface just for attention and to fish for compliments and everybody knows those kind of people can be annoying. The problem is however is that now people believe that those who truly have mental difficulty controlling sadness  can be lumped up with the attention seekers.

People feel that all they need to do is to stop thinking bad about themselves and problem solved. It’s no where near that simple. If we could just force ourselves to stop thinking badly about ourselves and see just our good qualities, don’t you think we would? Do you think we’re so stupid or weird that we just accept making ourselves miserable? I guarantee you, a truly insecure and depressed person  wishes they they can stop that mind set. It’s not just simple bouts of feeling a bit sad, in our minds, these horrible thoughts are what we think are truths that we don;t want to accept. We think our hate for ourselves is justified and we wish it wasn’t. NOBODY want’s to be sad, but we can’t stop it as hard as we try, and we do freaking try like you can’t imagine.

You may say you know it won’t be easy to accept yourself and love yourself, but I honestly think you still think it’s easier than it looks. Do you know what it’s like to be a cutter? to truly contemplate suicide? To truly feel hopeless? I have a strong feeling that you haven’t and you’re equating feeling very sad with true hatred for oneself. I want to be cured, I realize my self hate is not helping me, but it’s not a problem could be just shrugged off, it’s a true mental disorder that needs to be dealt with, smartly and in a supportive and casual pace. We feel like fools because we are partly unable to think otherwise, but you’re the real fool if you think you can make a broad judgement and think self hate is as simple and as you describe.

We just want to be happy, and we need to figure out the right way to do it.